Are You a Gay Man Interested in Counseling for Your Relationship, Emotions, Career, Health, or Finances?
(If you just want to contact me right away, call 310-726-HELP(4357), or email me at Ken@GayTherapyLA.com)
What brought you here today?
What do you want to CHANGE about your life?
- Are you feeling depressed, such as not feeling good about yourself, feeling that no one is really there for you, being unmotivated, losing enthusiasm for work or life, or that the future looks dull or mundane?
- Have you been anxious, on-edge, or sleepless, due to some stressful condition or event?
- Are you anxious due to something related to the Recession and economy, such as being laid off from your job?
- Do you have concerns that you are drinking too much, or using party drugs too often?
- Do you have concerns about an addiction other than drugs or alcohol, such as sex, gambling, food, or spending?
- Are you and a boyfriend or partner not having sex?
- Are you having sex outside your relationship and you’re feeling like there is no one safe to talk about it with?
- Are you, or someone you love, concerned, worried, or scared by your use of crystal meth or some other “party drug”?
- Do you have a partner you love, but you’re frustrated that the two of you argue too frequently about chores, sex, drinking, money, or stress?
- Are you scared of what the future may hold because you’ve recently tested positive for HIV?
- Are you frustrated that time keeps going by, you get older, and you still don’t have a boyfriend or partner?
- Are you feeling stressed about work before the day even begins, or exhausted from stress once it’s over?
- Do you hold dreams of changing careers, or want to learn how to cope better with the job you have?
- Are you a small business owner, but you want to learn how to be “successful” (whatever that means for YOU), earn more money, be more focused, get your name “out there”, get more business/customers, or get along better with your employees or co-workers?
- Are you trying to deal with your anger?
- Are you trying to deal with the feelings and memories of having been abused when you were younger – physically, emotionally, or sexually?
- Are you an executive who needs a VERY private and discreet setting to talk about personal or work issues?
- Or are you doing pretty well in your life, but you still want someone to talk in private about important personal goals like making more money, improving your relationship, developing a healthier body image, or just feeling better about yourself?
If so, that’s great! Because that is what I help guys with all day, every day, Monday-Friday as a professional, licensed, psychotherapist and coach with nearly 18 years of professional experience helping guys like YOU, who have had problems like YOU — and solved them!
What is the VALUE of hiring Ken Howard, LCSW as your therapist/coach?
I help you to…
- Feel more motivated, confident, and viable again after being depressed
- Feel more relaxed and comfortable in situations that used to provoke intense anxiety
- Cope with alcohol, cocaine, crystal meth, and other addictions, and feel stronger, healthier, and liberated from the tyrrany of addiction
- Develop strategies for social anxiety to be less isolated, and put yourself confidently “out there” so you can meet someone you like — or love
- Develop strategies for planning your career, learning new skills, preparing for advanced education, or professional networking
- Defuse and de-escalate anger and relax, where maybe you used to blow up and pay a high price for anger (such as domestic violence, legal trouble, or embarrassment about “losing your cool” in front of others)
- Come to terms with being an abuse survivor, process what happened, heal through the pain, and live well on the other side of it
- Gain assertive communication skills to ask for — and get — what you want. I teach the principles of a strong, healthy self-esteem and assertive communication skills that carry over into getting what you need and want from many aspects of life
- Helping gay couples learn to communicate better, forge compromises, improve sex, and learn to appreciate the best in one another – recapturing the “old spark” in the bedroom
- Showing people newly diagnosed with HIV that life does go on, your dreams are still possible and important, and that you can be healthy and confident again. (I know; I’ve been living with HIV successfully myself for over 19 years now…)
I provide you with a private, safe, confidential space to come each week, at a time set aside just for you, with my undivided attention, where you can work toward goals that are important to you and that would relieve you of burdens or improve your quality of life. Everything we talk about is strictly confidential, except for the most extreme legal situations (I can explain these later). There is no topic that is “taboo” for us; there is no judgement. We take things at your pace. The theme of my practice is, “Self-Empowerment” — which is developing and evoking the power in YOURSELF to address the things that bother you, and achieve a much higher quality of life — through all kinds of strategies, resources, and techniques that I will teach you.
Many people think they have to really “need” therapy to come in; that’s not true. Our work can begin whenever you WANT it to. There is really no such thing as people who “need” therapy versus people who don’t. Everyone could benefit from knowing themselves better and setting goals to improve their life. I think everyone “needs” therapy who simply wants to make a change in their life, or who wants to reach an important goal, and could use some support to do it.
The most common technique I use is called the cognitive-behavioral approach. This is a very interactive technique to change the way you think about yourself, which changes the way you feel, which changes your behaviors, which then changes your life in all kinds of positive ways. With some people, I also draw from a more casual “life coaching” approach, where you learn how to get more things done, deal with anger, manage your time, deal with drinking or using, make a budget, plan your career, feel better about yourself, or communicate better with others.
How can I help you? I specialize in helping gay men (individuals, and gay male couples) close the gap between how life is, and how you would like it to be, in important areas of your life, such as your:
- Emotions – Depression, Anxiety, Obsessions/Compulsions, Fears, Anger
- Behavior – Habits, Interactions
- Health – Coping with Physical Challenges, Embracing Optimum Health
- Career – Choosing, Changing, Building, Maximizing
- Finances – Salary, Spending, Stress Management
- Relationships – Dating, Sex, Love, Domestic Partnerships
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I draw on over 18 years of professional experience in providing counseling, psychotherapy, and coaching to gay men just like you, and from my own lifetime experience as a gay man. Of course, I also work with lesbians, and with non-gay men and women. Working with gay men has been a specialty of my practice, research, writing, and expertise, throughout my career. I hope I earn your trust enough to let me work with you. To contact me for more information, or to schedule an appointment, call 310-726-HELP (4357) or email me at ken@gaytherapyla.com.
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